Growth

A chain is no stronger than its weakest link. No doubt you have heard that analogy in the past. Every member of a team brings unique levels of experience, ability, intellect, and passion to the group. The ultimate aim is to have a team with no weak links. Ideally, everyone is growing or at least being “coached up.” Obviously, in a worst case scenario, a team member who is so weak that the team is being hindered or restricted must be removed. You are not that weak link, are you? You are growing personally, aren’t you? You are inspiring the other members to grow also, right? Here are three things that you and each team member should do to keep each link of the chain strong.

1. Each team member should have a mentor. A mentor is someone who has greater experience, stronger ability, excellent intellect, and exceptional passion who is willing to give some of their time to help others to be more effective at what they do. The mentor should have experience in the same field of responsibility, a track record of success, and a willingness to pass on his or her wisdom to others. Who is your mentor?
2. Each team member should have a personal growth plan. Growth can happen by osmosis sometimes, but it is not ordinary and less likely as you rise to higher levels of leadership. Growth comes as you read, experiment, pilot new methods and strategies, fail, collaborate, listen to others, subscribe to podcasts, attend seminars and conferences, pursue degrees, “bend the ears” of other skilled leaders, submit to accountability and self-evaluate. That is not an exhaustive list but simply examples of actions a leader or team member can take to grow. What is your plan?
3. Get out of your comfort zone. I personally am not a fan of stress, but I have learned that if I am not stressed I am not really growing. Some reading this already think that number two is not possible for them because it will put stress on their schedule. Welcome to leadership! I am not speaking here of unnecessary stress but of strategic stress. You must be stretched to grow, and you will rarely find it comfortable. It may finally become comfortable with time and experience, or it may not. I continually find myself in uncomfortable situations because I expose myself to situations that test me and make me stronger. How are you getting out of your comfort zone?

Don’t be the weakest link. Don’t be a weak link at all. Commit to continue your growth and you will be on your way to maximizing your leadership!

“There’s only one thing more contagious than a good attitude – and that’s a bad attitude.”

                                                                             John Maxwell

I just got off the phone with a key leader in a large organization. He was reflecting on a team within his organization and expressed how each individual, though good-natured, were the worst gripers and complainers whenever they got together. I have experienced the same thing on some teams in some organizations. My first job out of college was as a teacher of Social Studies in a Junior High School. The teacher in the room next to mine was constantly complaining about everything and criticizing every person. Even as a twenty-one-year-old young man, my mind always wondered…why don’t they find another job! I am so glad I had the wisdom, even as a young man, not to allow their attitude to rub off on me.

I have always elevated the value of “attitudes” both personally and as a leader. How do you identify the seeds of a bad attitude? Here are a few examples.

1. An inability to admit wrongdoing. Everyone makes mistakes and the person who cannot acknowledge their mistakes has the wrong attitude…. whether they will admit it or not.
2. Failing to forgive. People hold grudges assuming they are doing harm to the other party when in reality they are primarily poisoning their own spirit.
3. Petty Jealousy. When people succeed, do well, are promoted, or win, they should be celebrated and applauded. The person who cannot celebrate has a real attitude problem.
4. Self-Centeredness. When an individual believes that the world revolves around them they are displaying a level of immaturity that will only hinder those around them and the mission of the organization.
5. A critical spirit. Criticism is not a gift or an asset. While there is a place for evaluation and critique there is no place for constant criticism. Be the solution and not the problem or the person who only focuses on the problems.
6. Failure to share credit. While individuals can accomplish much, most significant accomplishments in an organization are the result of many team members working together.

Your attitude matters more than your actual competence. A person with a good attitude can be “coached up” and develop enough skills to get the job done in most cases. A person with competence who possesses a bad attitude can be like cancer to the whole organization. Put several people together and they can totally sabotage the mission. Don’t have a bad attitude. It is a choice. Don’t tolerate bad attitudes if you are in leadership. Failure to address inappropriate attitudes will prevent you from maximizing your leadership.

Some portions adapted from chapter eight of The 17 Indisputable Laws of Leadership by John C. Maxwell.

 

Five generations. That is how many distinct generations are living in North America today. If you travel back to previous centuries, you would find three generations providing leadership at any given time. However, with the advance in technology, the speed of change, and longer life-spans, you are now living among five generations.

• The Greatest Generation (those who fought and won WW II) represented by those 73+.
• Baby Boomers represented by those age 54-72.
• Generation X represented by those age 38-53.
• The Millennials represented by those age 24-37.
• Generation Z represented by those age 8-23.

Brad Szollose is the author of a book called Liquid Leadership: Multi-Generational Ideas That Are Changing the Way We Run Things. It is a worthy read and he shares seven laws to follow if you desire to be effective at leading cross-generational.

1. A Liquid Leader places people first.
2. A Liquid Leader cultivates an environment where it is free and safe, to tell the truth.
3. A Liquid Leader nurtures a creative culture.
4. A Liquid Leader supports the reinvention of the organization.
5. A Liquid Leader leads by example.
6. A Liquid Leader takes responsibility.
7. A Liquid Leader leaves a lasting legacy.

Szollose has written an entire book illustrating and instructing based on those seven laws and I recommend the book to you. However, there is wisdom in simply viewing the list and assessing your own leadership based on what you see. Today, more than ever, it is important that you develop leadership skills that help you to be effective cross-generational. Consider his list and self-assess yourself in order to maximize your leadership.

Which are the most critical six months in the faith journey of a child who grows up in church? It is the six months following High School graduation. What can a parent or church do with that information?

 

Over the last several months I have shared videos designed specifically for parents but beneficial for any and all who care for teens and kids. The January video was the Driver of a Sticky Faith. I followed up in February with a second video that described The Power of First Steps. The third in March was entitled Balancing Bonding and Boundaries. In April you learned about The Ultimate Home Field Advantage. The May video spoke of The Necessity of Modeling Church Engagement. In June you learned the importance of Building a Network of Spiritual Influence for your child. These videos are based on the research conducted by Tom Crites and I to discover what keeps kids connected to church into their adult lives and published in our book, Why They Stay.

 

July is now here and I want to invite you to view the seventh video in the series. In this thirty-minute video I am speaking to parents about the months following High School and critical information parents and church leaders must attend to. Trust me when I tell you that you will be encouraged as a parent, better equipped to help your children as well as other parents and learn principles that can maximize your leadership. Here we go…

 

Perhaps you have known someone that died because they failed to take action. They ignored subtle signs that their health was failing and refused to go to a doctor for medical attention. People are grieved that the person has passed away, but the greater tragedy is that it could have been prevented. It is also sad to see a ministry designed to help the hurting and to see lives changed to struggle to the point of dissolution. It does happen, but you can take action to circumvent the death of a ministry. Here are warning signs that can alert you that your ministry is in trouble and perhaps your leadership role also.

1. Large turnover in volunteers. Note that it is not unusual to see large turnover at the beginning of your ministry, but it should be less of an issue year by year.
2. Difficulty finding new volunteers. “I just can’t get people to help or to commit!” Sorry, but that is on you. That is why you are called to lead the ministry. You were placed there to inspire and enlist the involvement of volunteers to carry forth the task of the ministry.
3. The absence of quality training for leaders. Training is the most quantifiable factor that determines the likelihood of effectiveness in a ministry. If you train well, those equipped will aid in the enlistment of others. If you fail to train you are on your own and the team you lead will lead with low expectations and minimal results at best.
4. Erosion in the quality of the ministry. Quality is certainly an intangible factor. How do you know? Interview those who have been involved in the ministry over a long period of time and ask them: “How does the quality of what we do compare to a couple of years ago?” It should be better now than ever, or you are going backward.
5. Erosion in the standards of your leaders. If you don’t expect much you won’t get much.
6. A sustained decrease in total participation. While participation can decrease occasionally and seasonally, sustained decrease month after month or year after year is the most obvious sign that a ministry is in trouble. A downward trajectory is destined for zero.
7. Sustained low morale in the ministry. Attitudes can make or break a ministry. Always pay attention to the morale of the leaders and participants. Discouragement never built anything.
8. No examples of lives being changed. That is what ministry is ultimately about and if no lives are being changed you are not actually doing ministry. It may not happen every day or every week. But if it has been months you know that focus has been lost.

Don’t be discouraged and don’t be caught by surprise. Everyone can do better and heed the warning signs that can help you to maximize your leadership.

Who is influencing your children? You certainly are but who else? Is there a way to give your children a spiritual edge that will strengthen their faith? The answer is “yes” and this video will give you tangible ways that you can build a network of spiritual influence that increases the likelihood that your children will be faithfully serving the Lord when they are adults.

 

Over the last several months I have shared videos designed specifically for parents but beneficial for any and all who care for teens and kids. The January video was the Driver of a Sticky Faith. I followed up in February with a second video that described The Power of First Steps. The third in March was entitled Balancing Bonding and Boundaries. In April you learned about The Ultimate Home Field Advantage. The May video spoke of The Necessity of Modeling Church Engagement. These videos are based on the research conducted by Tom Crites and I to discover what keeps kids connected to church into their adult lives and published in our book, Why They Stay.

 

June is now here and I want to invite you to view the sixth video in the series. In this thirty-minute video, I am speaking to parents about the need of purposefully surrounding your children with other godly influencers. You will discover the Biblical roots as well as the research that supports the principles you will learn. Trust me when I tell you that you will be encouraged as a parent, better equipped to help your children as well as other parents and learn principles that can maximize your leadership. Here we go…

A great golfer. Bowler. Tennis player. Boxer.  These athletes stand out because of their ability to carry almost all of the load on the road to success. They certainly have others who support them, prepare them, and coach them, but their success comes down to their personal ability to compete on their own. An effective leader understands that their success will not happen in a vacuum and they must effectively work with a team. Leadership is definitely a team sport.

The best of leaders tend to do these things well because of the team aspect related to their effectiveness:

1. They are good at recruiting people to serve on their team. Perhaps you have heard of Kirby Smart? Nick Saban? They are great coaches with a track record of success. While they know the “X’s” and “O’s” of football, their success is largely connected to their ability to recruit talent. For the effective leader, recruitment involves seeking out both those who are talented and those who have potential. The life of Jesus is a great example of the latter in that he enlisted men for their potential and poured his life into them. The result: They changed the world.
2. They are purposeful in delegating. Delegation accomplishes these two things at the very least.  First, it frees the leader up to focus on those tasks that make the most difference.  Second, it allows those who have been enlisted to grow in their experience. Delegation is a necessity and it is also a skill. Learn when and what to delegate and you will be able to move your mission forward.
3. They coach those they have enlisted.  I will refer you to last week’s article [Click Here]  to reinforce the point. Once you delegate you must train (if necessary) and evaluate.  Set your team members up for success, not failure, by giving them clear instructions, and the tools or training needed to accomplish the task(s) that are delegated.  If you can do this you will maximize your leadership!

 

Portions adapted from Chapter 4 of What to Ask the Person in the Mirror. by Robert S. Kaplan