Leading

Tear Down That Wall

A leader possesses a natural desire to thrive. An effective leader wants to thrive while helping those around him or her to thrive also. The best leaders do not focus exclusively on their own success. To do so would be narcissistic which is counter intuitive to effective leadership. In a multi-layered organization where multiple staff members serve, multiple departments or ministries conduct work, and workers perform a variety of different functions, the tendency is to focus on the task of the department without regard to the needs of the other teams. This tendency is known as “silo-ing.” It is not always intentional but it is always detrimental to the mission of the organization.

A leader or team member in a department or ministry should stand up for their team. It is healthy to have passion for the task assigned, to have expertise, to defend the team members, and to carry the banner for his or her area of assignment. However, each team member should recognize that they play a role on a larger team. Failure to do so can lead to unhealthy competition within the organization and lack of cooperation in accomplishing the ultimate mission. Here are three ways that leaders and team members contribute to the silo effect and note that all are avoidable and correctable:

  1. Operating as if me or my team is exempt from standards, procedures, rules, policies, or expectations communicated by organizational leaders.
  2. Planning activities, events, meetings, and/or developing strategies without regard to what any other team in the organization is doing.
  3. Operating as if what my team does is superior to what other teams are assigned to do.

This can happen in a business. It can happen in a religious organization. It can happen in a church. As a matter of fact, Paul tackled this very issue in 1 Corinthians 12:12-27. Seek to thrive in your assignment but do so in a way that helps others to thrive also. Doing your part to minimize the silo effect is one key to making it happen.

 

Understand Why Some Stay

Tom Crites and I recently conducted a national research project in an attempt to understand what helps young adults stay committed to church. Much has been written about the erosion of attendance and the exodus of young adults from church, but not everyone leaves. We surveyed 26-39 year old young adults who grew up attending church to discover what happens in their younger lives that helps them stay committed into their adult lives. The findings have been incredible. We discovered fifteen major takeaways and are now in the process of writing to help equip parents and pastors to be more effective in making disciples that mature and stay committed to the church.

Here is one example of something that did not make as much of a difference as we would have thought: participation in a new Christian’s class. Various denominations use different terms for this experience, but in essence it reflects several hours of equipping and education to help a new young believer understand the essentials of faith and doctrine. Participation is a rite of passage in some faith traditions provided at a particular age, while in others it is available at whatever point a child, or in some circumstances teens or adults, express their desire to become a follower of Jesus Christ. An introductory discipleship experience such as this is commendable, important, and any church would do well to offer an orientation experience for young believers. However, no correlation was noted between whether one did or did not attend such a class and whether or not they stayed in church as adults.

The point of this finding is not that a church should not offer such an experience. I believe that they absolutely should and if your church does not, you need to find a way to make it happen. However, you cannot confine one’s discipleship experience to a four, six, or eight hour class. A New Christians class or the equivalent by any other name is an introduction to discipleship, and Christian education and spiritual maturity cannot be conferred by a certificate. Discipleship is a lifetime journey. Offer the New Christians class but also be sure to determine what comes next. Simply providing a New Christians class does not result in a lifetime commitment to serve Christ in a local church.

I look forward to sharing more with you about this project in the future. In the mean-time, if you would like to dig a little deeper, take time to listen to the podcast interview as Jody Livingston and I discuss several of the key takeaways with a special focus on youth ministry. Go here for the podcast: Jody Livingston Podcast

Signs That Alert You That a Congregation Is In Trouble

Perhaps you have known someone that died because they failed to take action. They ignored subtle signs that their health was failing and refused to go to a doctor for medical attention. People are grieved that the person has passed away but the greater tragedy is that it could have been prevented.

I have been blessed to be in churches by the hundreds throughout the course of my ministry. Occasionally I am troubled when I see what I perceive to be obvious signs that the church is in trouble and yet the members and sometimes the leaders are continuing as if nothing is wrong. The church will never die. However, a congregation can and sadly it happens all too often.  Here are some signs that the demise of the congregation is imminent if emergency measures are not taken:

1.     No preschoolers are present. The absence of preschoolers means the absence of young adults. Who are your preschool leaders? I have received the response that “we have no preschool leaders because we have no preschool children.”  Just the opposite is true. One reason the church has no preschool children is because they have no preschool leadership or ministry. Get the padlock ready for the front door.

2.     The church cannot keep a pastor.  This is the church that has a different pastor every two or three years. None are willing to stay. I hate to break the news, but if the church has gone through five or six pastors in fifteen years, the problem is probably not the pastor.  Decline is imminent.

3.     No baptisms all year.  The Lord added to the church daily those who were being saved. Do you recognize that from Acts 2:47?  It is still true and God is still saving.  Not one baptism?  How can a congregation go an entire year and not see one person come to faith? It is because they are in hospice care and may not even know it.

4.     The congregation does not resemble the immediate community.  Communities do change over time. Occasionally the members are driving from outside the community and few people if anyone has been reached inside the community for many months or even years. The congregation is gasping rather than breathing.

5.     The church does not publish any statistics.  Sometimes the congregation or the leaders are either ignoring or possibly hiding the reality of a decline. God can bless a church of any size and there is no right or wrong size for a church to be.  However, shrinking numbers (attendance, baptisms, offerings) can be symptomatic of deeper issues if the erosion has taken place over many months without end.  Ignoring the information does not change the reality or the need to honestly assess the health of the congregation.

What do you do if you experience these signs of demise?  Don’t give up.  More to come.

My Church is in Trouble!

I hope you read the previous blog: Signs that alert you that your church is in trouble.  The article points out five signs that are often ignored which signal that the congregation is on the road to demise and often death. That is always tragic and no believer wants to see a congregation have to close the doors.  What do you do if it is your church?

  1. Don’t ignore the signs. My sister and I would play hide and seek when I was a small boy. I would run to an adjoining room, stand against the wall, and cover my eyes. She would find me within seconds and say “I see you there.”  I would reply, “No you can’t, I have my eyes closed!”  Closing your eyes and ignoring the signs will not make them go away and will not bring your church back to health.
  2. Resist the impulse to blame.  It is our pastor’s fault.  We have deacons who won’t lead. Our members are apathetic. That may or may not be true. But calling people out will likely create anger, further frustration, and perhaps division. That is not to suggest that tough conversations will not need to take place at some point.  But do not begin by assessing blame. Begin by evaluating yourself. What are you personally doing or failing to do that is contributing to the demise.  Begin by looking at your role.
  3. Pray. No, I mean really pray.  Describe the prayer ministry of your church. Offertory prayers, benedictions, and praying for Aunt Thelma’s forthcoming surgery are all commendable.  But, have you been on your face and on your knees, not once, not twice, but frequently alone and with others asking God to show up in your congregation.
  4. Talk about the vision for the church. If you are not sure where you are going, how will you know if you ever get there? What do you want your church to be like five years and ten years from now? Are you doing the things that put you on the path that will take you there?
  5. Bring in a specialist.  You need someone to take an objective look at your congregation.  Sometimes you cannot see the flaws when you live in a situation day in and day out.  Fresh eyes can assist in bringing clarity to the issues and someone with Godly wisdom and experience can help you see the path forward more clearly.  A person with a heart problem will do well to consult with a heart specialist. Consider bringing a church health specialist to assist with evaluating and strategizing the best way forward.

What To Do If Your Church Is Experiencing a Slump?

“Slump? I ain’t in no slump… I just ain’t hitting.”   – Yogi Berra

 

Church life is absolutely a joy when everyone seems to be happy, the worship is spirited, people are coming to faith in Christ, and no threatening divisive issues are on the radar. Maintaining momentum over a long period of time is very difficult. I did a study once of churches in my state denomination to determine how many had experienced 2% or greater growth for the previous ten consecutive years without fail. Only six churches were able to do that or to see it another way; .0016%. That is a good reminder that even the best of churches are prone to go through occasional slumps. A church that is going through a slump is not dying, is not experiencing some contentious division, and is not going through dramatic erosion. The slumping church is doing okay but they have lost momentum and may not be progressing like they were in the previous months and years. What do you do when your church is in a slump?

 

  1. Take the seasons into consideration. Most North American churches experience cycles that affect attendance throughout the calendar year. Churches ordinarily see a mild surge in attendance at the end of summer when school gets back in session and the vacation season comes to a conclusion. In addition, most churches re-launch their small group Bible Studies with new leaders, new groups, and promotion of school age children. Once November arrives the holiday weekend will pull down average attendance and December will bring at least two more weekends when many families travel. With the exception of extreme weather in warmer climate areas the attendance will rebound in January, February, and into March. April brings spring breaks followed by May with a holiday weekend and graduations resulting in decreased average attendance. Then summer comes and many families take advantage of warmer weather and the children being out of school to take much needed vacations. When school returns the attendance tends to rebound again. Seasonal slumps are common in every church as these up and down cycles occur each year.
  2. Look beyond attendance. Church leaders should certainly take note of erosion. This occurs when attendance declines and continues to slide even when the seasons would suggest that participation in worship should rebound. Assuming that many months of decline are not the issue, look beyond attendance to other critical issues. Although this is second on the list it is actually most important. How is the prayer ministry going? Are members being equipped and challenged in personal evangelism? Is the Bible study and are the sermons fresh and challenging? Are the members reaching into the community to serve and minister? Be sure you are not neglecting these best practices that keep your congregation healthy and the momentum building.
  3. Focus on what you can control. This point is made with acknowledgement that God is the source of momentum and forward progress. I am sure that you are well aware, however, that sin can get in the way. You have no control over whether more people will attend your church this Sunday. But you do have control over whether you have a repentant heart or not. You do decide whether you will spend time in God’s word each day. You make the decision of whether to minister, to participate in equipping opportunities, or whether to invite guests to participate in worship and church activities. You may not have control of the temperature but you can adjust your thermostat. Ordinarily, when you do, the temperature changes accordingly. Some actions on your part are equivalent to changing the thermostat.

 

A slump is temporary. Pray through it and know that God can teach you when you are in the valley. If the slump continues you have moved to erosion and that is a totally different challenge. Slumps are not enjoyable but neither are they abnormal. Attend to your personal spiritual growth when things are great, when times are tough, and even in the midst of a slump.

Mission Trumps Position

Does the name Babe Ruth ring a bell? The avid sports fan certainly knows who that is. Even the less acquainted are likely aware that he held the Major League Baseball record for homeruns for almost forty years before being surpassed by Hank Aaron. During the three years prior to Ruth’s dramatic hitting career, a young pitcher on the same team recorded a 2.28 earned run average as a starter and had a winning percentage of .671. Do you happen to know who that was?  Yes, you sports geeks know exactly who I am talking about. The young pitcher was none other than Babe Ruth. Ruth was on his way to perhaps becoming a Hall of Fame pitcher with stats like those.

 

However, he did not continue to serve the team as a starting pitcher. The coach determined that he would be more valuable playing every day, going to the plate four to six times per game, to drive in runs and give the offense a punch. He did not know that he would set the record for home runs when the change was made. What if he had balked at the decision? (I could not resist the pun.) You may have never heard of him. Who knows how the rest of his career may have gone as a pitcher. He may have excelled or he may have flopped. We will never know. What if he said, “I don’t want to play every day. I like pitching every fourth game.” What if he liked the spotlight of being before the crowd for every pitch instead of only five or six plate appearances?

What about you and your role? Do you like your position in the organization? You should at least have some affection for it and there is no harm in aspiring to greater things. However, a leader should never have the attitude of “I don’t know what I would do if I could not do this job (hold this position).” A growing leader is capable of holding several different positions with a degree of effectiveness and will excel where he or she is placed in the existing organization or in another organization for that matter. For one to possess the attitude that they cannot thrive in any other positon or any other place than where they are is not flattering. Hyper-specialization should not be confused with limited skill sets and lack of personal development. You serve your organization to help accomplish the mission. The mission must be superior in priority to your position. Otherwise, unhealthy internal competition, diminishing competence, and the undermining of your own credibility will result. You will best help those you serve now and in the future by placing more emphasis on the mission and less emphasis on your position. It is commitment to the mission that will get your organization to where it needs to be no matter what your position may be. The mission must take precedence over your position!

Speaking to the Tension Between On-Line versus In-Person Expressions of Worship

Would you allow me to share a message with you that I preached about 17 months ahead of the pandemic. I share this message with you humbly, not seeking feedback or response, but knowing the relevance of this message as we wrestle with the tension of on-line versus in person expressions of worship. In preparation for a seminary class I am teaching, this message came to mind and spoke to my heart as I viewed it months later. For our Network pastors, it will have the added benefit of allowing you to get to know me as a “preacher.” May God bless the preaching of His word! 
https://vimeo.com/303060185?ref=fb-share&fbclid=IwAR1lpcxD26k1x3cnYOP0DOz3TDUOcY287ztMmPpruU2FlTix5JdvHas8Zrs

Helping Church Leaders Understand What Keeps Kids Connected to Church into their Adult Lives- Part Two

Please join me in the second part of this two-part series as I help your church leaders understand the keys to keeping the kids and teens who grow up in your church to stay connected to church into their adult lives. Each of the two sessions is about thirty minutes long. Watch it, post it, share it, forward it, use it in your next leader training session, or gather a group of your leaders to view and discuss. Part One was  posted a couple of days ago and can be found at www.steveparr.net. Get ready now for part two. Here you go… Dr. Steve Parr Regroup Afternoon on Vimeo

Helping Church Leaders Understand What Keeps Kids Connected to Church into their Adult Lives- Part One

Please join me in this two-part series as I help your church leaders understand the keys to keeping the kids and teens who grow up in your church to stay connected to church into their adult lives. Each of the two sessions is about thirty minutes long. Watch it, post it, share it, forward it, use it in your next leader training session, or gather a group of your leaders to view and discuss. Part Two will be posted in a couple of days. Here you go with part one… DR. Steve Parr Regroup Morning 2016 on Vimeo

How to Advise a Pastor Seeking a Space When They Have No Place

Perhaps you are located in a region where property is readily available, inexpensive, and building costs are low. Perhaps….but unlikely. The area where I serve has a greater demand for space than supply and with every development, residential or industrial, the remaining properties grow more valuable and the alternatives for church plants or smaller congregations looking to upsize their facilities is challenging. I frequently have pastors inquire of me about possibilities and I am grateful that many churches that I serve gladly share space with additional congregations. However, what do you do if you don’t have a place to meet? How do you advise that pastor whose congregation has outgrown their home or their current space. Here are some words of wisdom for pastors seeking a space when they have no place.

  1. Please be aware that when you contact a leader of a Network such as mine, or some other entity in your region, our priority lies with those who belong to our Networks. We want to help but we must keep our Network churches at the front of the line.
  2. You might consider becoming a member of a Network like ours for many reasons, but among them in this circumstance:
    1. If you actively engage with many other pastors, you may encounter someone who has knowledge of a space that is available.
    2. If you actively engage with many other pastors and get to know them personally, and as they get to know your heart, they will advocate and seek space for you.
    3. If you actively engage and others get to know your heart, it increases the likelihood that they will invite you to locate on their campus.
  3. Contact and visit larger churches in your target community that have larger spaces. That is often where existing space and resources are readily found. Get to know the pastor and be a blessing to him. While it is okay to call a pastor, seek to have an in-person meeting so that he can get to know you. If possible, attend their worship service(s).
  4. Don’t be “pushy,” but don’t be “shy.” Don’t “harass” a pastor but always follow up your conversations, even if it is to let him know you are going in a different direction.
  5. Be aware that doctrinal alignment will be expected so only consider and contact churches where you can worship without either party violating the doctrinal convictions of the other.
  6. If you are desperate for space, don’t be locked into a specific meeting time. Churches often have space available after lunch on Sundays.
  7. Check with me local Network, Associational, and Denominational leaders about any campus possibilities that they are aware of. It is your responsibility to initiate contact and work out any agreement with churches or businesses they refer you to.
  8. Check with local Network, Associational, and Denominational leaders about professional resources to identify potential space (not on a church property) for lease. These resources are available at no cost to you.
  9. Get a written agreement of understanding whether meeting on another church campus or leasing non-church space. People of integrity can have different recollections of verbal conversations.
  10. Keep commitments, honor any agreement, and take care of the property as if it were your own.

My Network has been blessed to assist fourteen congregations in locating space in the last couple of years. But don’t wait on me….or someone else. These words of wisdom may be the avenue God uses to get you to a place where your impact can be maximized. I pray for you that it will.